When you love someone that does things that annoy you..(pet peeves blog)

Earlier in training we were given an interesting topic to talk about during "free speech activity". We were asked to talk about our pet peeves or things that people do that annoy us. I wanted to go ahead and say mine first before anybody takes it and I have to come up with other pet peeves which is unique from the rest. However, I got to go third before the last person went up in front and most of the common pet peeves were already taken.

Most of them had mentioned experiences when commuting or things that people do on the train or on a PUJ and what-not and some are pretty funny especially the things that our Trainer talked about.

As it was my turn to talk about my pet peeve here is what I ended up saying:

Hi everyone! I really wanted to go first because I didn't want to come up with uncommon pet peeves but unfortunately, most of things I have written down to say in front was already taken by most of you.

A pet peeve is something that annoys you or something people do that is just annoying. As most of you already know, my parents left for the States when I was 14 and I was basically left to be on my own at that point. It was hard but I grew up pretty fast since I was forced to take care of myself and be responsible on my own when other kids my age had parents to protect them and tell them what was right and wrong. In my case, since it was different for me, I really liked to have my own space at times or times that I just want to be left alone. What really annoys me is when someone tried to invade that space or that "me" time that I often have so here are two things that annoys me and usually, it's my aunt who does this.

It really annoys me when I'm in the bathroom doing my business and she knocks on my door and say, "Mai Mai, you know what happened to me earlier.." and just chats and chats and chats and I'm like, "Hello... I'm in the bathroom, can't you wait 'til I'm done answering the call of nature?" You know how it is with bathroom time, it's the time when high scores are made coz I just sit there and play with my ipad or check out facebook or read online news. Plus it feels awkward talking to someone outside while you're there actually doing your business. You get what I mean?

Another pet peeve of mine, is when at around 11PM, when I am already in bed just lying there meditating on how my day went, sorting out some of my thoughts and, again, my aunt, with no sense of personal space, just chats with me regarding all the things that happened to her and her colleagues, people I don't even know personally, like I'm her personal diary. I used to have my room to my own but since I left and moved to Luzon, she actually moved into my room and when I go visit there, she and I become roomies and she just uses that time of the night, my time to face my own thoughts, to just talk about her day.

However, that's the thing with pet peeves, it annoys you but if it's someone you love who does it, you allow it and you suck it up. My aunt, at times, has no one else to talk to. She has taken cared of us since we were young and when my parents left, she was our mother and our father at the same time. She did not get married since we became her life. She gained a lot of weight since she really didn't have the time to take care of herself. I owe her my life as well, hence, if the only thing that I can do to make up for the things that she has done for me and my siblings and parents, is to just listen to her when she wants me to listen then I'd do it BECAUSE I love her. Last Saturday, she woke me up and even called me five times knowing I was still asleep and just talked about updates in the house. I'm sleepy but I still listen and acknowledged her by saying, "Ok ok" though I had both eyes closed.

Just a few months ago, my aunt got diagnosed with Cancer, however, due to timely medical procedure, she is now cancer free but I remember the day when I found out about her condition, it was the same day I found out about the results of the bar, and I was even more devastated since I realized I couldn't imagine losing her at this time when I haven't proven anything to her yet or I can't imagine a satisfied life without her in it. She has been the foundation of our family as she really brought all of us together and even serves as the bridge between me and my siblings and our parents. So, since the time this event actually happened, I always had it in my mind, this fear that wakes me up at night hence, I vowed to take the fast lane and make sure that I accomplish something already the faster I get there the better as LIFE IS SHORT.

My point really is, to all of you guys who mentioned pet peeves, I noticed that you mostly talked about strangers who do this but you never mentioned about relatives or loved ones doing this as subconsciously, I think you are the same as me and that you adjust when it is someone you love.

So that's it. My pet peeves, and pet peevy aunt.

My "Obasan" at approx same age as me now as I post this on the left..

People who tell rumors when it's none of their business..

Photo courtesy of anon..

stabbed and exposed..

Thought to hopefully end my day: I don't know which is worst, to be stabbed in the back by a total stranger or finding out that a friend saw you about to get stabbed in the back and they stood idly by. Of course, a person of low intellect is someone you can't blame for their actions. It's like getting mad at a screw driver for "screwing" a bolt or a spoon for making you fat. They can't help it, they are just tools driven by ignorance, corrupted by malice. Immature solution? throw them all in the trash can and forget them. They don't have the right to live your life. Mature solution? take it as a challenge, if you're innocent you face your prosecutors, even if a familiar face is among them. I wish it were that easy for many of us. I wish it were that easy for me.

Ignorance is bliss..

There are things better left unspoken, better left undiscussed, better left forgotten.. For sometimes doing those things could cause wounds that should never have been there in the first place. The human mind naturally makes up excuses for one to feel better faced with adversity or what i like to coin as a comfort blanket. If it is a demotion in your job, you figured it was because they are cost cutting instead of admitting you had a poor performance for the past months. If it is a heartbreak, you imagined the worst about the other person, make them look even despicable in your eyes and less desireable, rather than admitting to yourself that the relationship was not meant to work and live with the fact that you had a fault in it as well... However, if you talked about it, if you broke it down to pieces or if you confront the truth behind things you might just not like what you see.. A friend of mine posted that the truth will not set you free and that it will not turn out for the better of anything. I think she has a point. I wish i didn't know what i know. I wished i would have stayed ignorant maybe i'll be happier. Next time, i should learn to leave things be. I forced it too much... I need to rest my brain.

Dreams that's where i have to go..

No matter what i say i'm not over you..

the truth about men.. a repost

HEAR WHAT OPRAH WINFREY HAD TO
SAY ABOUT MEN :

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. 
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who have a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are. Even if he has has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending... Compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE
individuals. Look for someone complimentary...
not supplementary.

Dating is fun... Even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes... When a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him ~ he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful: Dr. Phil says... You should know that: You're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one. They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one. Ladies take care of your own hearts... ❤

MY job..

Someone asked me if my job was an OJT. I was like, "No, sometimes I wish I had an OJT. Then, I have an excuse to screw up coz your boss would be like, "It's ok, you're an OJT.. do better next time." or "Next time. do this (insert legal teaching here)" or "Don't worry, you still get a bonus." but Oh no.... if I screw up, my boss would be like "Graduate man unta ka og law!" or "Ayaw ko pangutan-a kay kung ingon ana ikaw dapat musweldo nako." or "Sunod.. Deduction naka"." Nope, this is definitely not an OJT.

Burning bridges..

Sometimes you just have to burn bridges not because you're still mad at them but for the reason you don't want to give them another opportunity to hurt you.

Fairy Tales... they ruin our lives.

(WARNING: MAY RUIN CHILDHOOD)

Many woman are crazy coz most of us were made to believe we should base our lives on fairy tales. Think about it for a second.. Cinderella was a social climber. Snow white slept with 7 men. Sleeping beauty is an easy girl (fell inlove with the first guy she kissed>>and she was asleep!) Little mermaid was a spoiled stalker who made a deal with the devil for her obsession over a guy who doesn't know she exists. Wendy ran away with a boy to play "house" at 12 yo! Goldilocks is a robber. Red Riding Hood was probably the original dumb blonde (How the heck do u confused a wolf with your grandmother??!!) and don't even get me started with the beastiality behind frog prince and beauty and the beast.

Women should know, in real life, no guy will help you go get out of a tight spot. In fact, if a stranger comes up to you and kisses you, while you are asleep, it means he is a SEXUAL PREDATOR. A beautiful dress and an awesome pair of shoes will not just be given to you by a fairy godmother, you have to work hard to buy it. If you steal it, YOU GO TO JAIL.

You don't JUST GET your happy ending by just sitting down and looking pretty. You get up, take control of your life and grab your happiness or you won't go anywhere. However, do you know why I don't really adhere to fairy tales? Coz I don't need a knight in shining armor. A sweet man in blue jeans will do just fine.

Why FAIRY TALE princesses are not good role models..

Red riding hood: encourages stupidity. Can't even recognize a wolf from her grandma? Dah..
Alice in wonderland: she was addicted to shrooms.. Tama kaayu nang makig talk og iring oi hehe
Beauty and the beast: encouraged going against her father's wishes.
Little mermaid: stalked a prince, made a deal with a sea witch to give herself up for a guy? Psycho much..
Cinderella: ambisyosa! Instead of wishing to be independent and rich, she wishes for a beautiful dress she can't afford and a hot ride, she can't maintain? Ngee..
Goldilocks: encourages robbery.
Jasmine: did u see what she was wearing? Di uroy ka panuhotun dai!
Princess and the pea: pinakaarteng tao much? Di makatug kung dili perfect na mattress?! Pasalamat ka naa ka katre katugan oi!
Wendy: heller.. Run away with a boy, who is obviously too high to grow up, at the age of 12-15??!!
Rapunzel: haba ng hair mo te.. Ikaw na ang conservative na nisugot sudlan og lake iya kwarto gidayeg lang kadjut iya hair..
Sleeping beauty: easy girl, married the first guy she kissed, and in her sleep pa ha!
Snow white: lived together with seven men..
Wa lang i think i posted something like this before hehe

Confessions..

admit it, at one point or another, you weren't this bitter and angry. At one point, someone could have said to you, "you're the one". Being in a relationship was actually something exciting for you and it made you happy to be committed but you got hurt then you learned that loving someone is not all it's cut out to be. Now, you just cringe with the idea of saying "I do", dating is treated as a game, and breaking someone else's heart is not a crime and Valentine's day is independence day. Yes, once upon a time, you believed in love, but someone ruined it for the rest of them. admit it..

Warm Bodies (2013) Movie-Should Ray William Johnson get credit?

So I just watched WARM BODIES. The story is great, it made me really giggle and I think the story-line was just awesome. (Though my friend said it was torrent-worthy haha) Anyway, Hollywood is successful in making just about anything that's scary into hot. From vampires, werewolves, elves, etc. and now ZOMBIES.. As the movie finished, I realized the story line was a little bit familiar and a little bit too nostalgic. So I checked again and I think I'm right.. The story of the movie actually has some similarities with Your Favorite Martian's music video story of "Zombie Love Song". The creative mind behind Your Favorite Martian, a fictional cartoon band, is none other than, Ray William Johnson, internet superstar.

Zombie Love Song was uploaded and released on, Feb 9, 2011 and you can watch the video here.

Here are some things that I found just too similar between the two.

The Zombie in Warm Bodies was named R= Ray William Johnson
Blue pants, Red Shirt, White t-shirt inderneath=Same as the lead singer/character of YFM (in the book, R wears Black slacks, grey shirt, red tie)
And the poster of WARM BODIES is similar to the scene in the music video where the lead singer, as a zombie, gives flowers to the girl
Then that scene with the "hooded zombie" walking to the girl's house.(both have that scene)
The humor in the movie is similar to RWJ as well. (I think.. with the first person narration and the sarcasm..I just think so)
R loved music in vinyl=it is the same as the type the DJ in YFM uses

If you watch the movie and then watch the music video, the similarities cannot go unnoticed. I may even have missed some here.

Of course, the major difference is that the zombie became human again in the movie but in YFM's music video, the girl turned into a Zombie to be with the one she loves. I think that may have been the original plan if only Twilight didn't already get that kind of ending (girl becomes vampire).. hahaha

Anyway, I think there are just too many coincidences as to similarities of YFM's song and the movie, WARM BODIES.

I don't know.... I think RWJ should be given credit or something. I'm sure some of RWJ's fans figured that out as well.

The movie still really was entertaining for me but I think someone has to explain something to RWJ.

Those are just my thoughts. You judge for your own..

UPDATE: So I made a little investigation. The book which the movie was based from was published more or less the same year as YFM.. so who's the original concept creator?